How to Actually Live Rooted in Christ (Even When Life Is a Lot)

We’ve all heard it: “Just stay rooted in Christ.”

But what does that actually mean when your toddler is melting down, your inbox is overflowing, and your brain feels like a browser with 37 tabs open?

It’s a beautiful phrase—rooted in Christ—but sometimes it feels a little abstract, especially when life is loud, busy, or just plain overwhelming.

So let’s make it practical. Because staying rooted isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being connected.

The Deep Need to Be Grounded

I’ve lived untethered before. Running on caffeine, chasing approval, performing for acceptance. On the outside? I looked “put together.” On the inside? I was spiraling.

It wasn’t until everything around me started shaking that I realized… I had no roots. My identity had been tangled up in doing, striving, and keeping it all together.

And that’s when God gently brought me back to the beginning: Who I am in Him.

Real Roots Can Withstand Real Life

Think about a tree during a storm. The winds blow, the rain pours, the sky turns gray… but the tree stays. Why? Because its roots go deep.

If we want to withstand the stress, chaos, and overwhelm of life—we need to be rooted not in ourselves, but in Christ. That kind of spiritual grounding doesn’t mean the storm won’t come. It just means you won’t be uprooted by it.

What Does It Look Like to Be Rooted?

Let’s take it out of the clouds and bring it down to real life.

Here’s how I practice living rooted in Christ, even when life is a lot:

1. I Let Scripture Define Me—Not My Feelings

Feelings are real. But they aren’t always true. When I’m overwhelmed, I return to what God says about me:

“You are loved.”

“You are chosen.”

“You are created on purpose.”

“You are held.”

These aren’t just verses—they’re anchors. And they keep me grounded when life feels shaky.

2. I Make Time for Stillness (Even in Small Moments)

Some days I get 15 minutes with my Bible and coffee. Other days it’s a whispered prayer in the car line.

Stillness isn’t about the length of time. It’s about intentional space to remember who I belong to.

“Be still and know that I am God.”

— Psalm 46:10

Even one minute of stillness can reset my spirit and re-root me in Him.

3. I Let Go of the Pressure to Prove

Performance-based faith is exhausting. It makes us believe we have to earn our way into God’s love.

But here’s the truth: God already loves you. You don’t have to earn what’s already been given.

Living rooted in Christ means letting go of the pressure to prove and receiving the grace to simply be.

4. I Stay Connected to People Who Remind Me of Truth

When I’m tired or overwhelmed, I need friends who say: “Hey, you’re okay. God’s got you.” “You don’t have to do it all.” “You’re still loved, even on hard days.”

Community is part of staying rooted. We weren’t meant to grow alone.

5. I Keep Coming Back

Even when I mess up. Even when I forget. Even when I drift.

I come back. That’s what grace is for.

Being rooted isn’t about never wavering—it’s about returning to the Source again and again.

Final Thought

You don’t have to be perfect to be planted.

Rooted doesn’t mean you always feel strong. It means you know where your strength comes from.

When you’re grounded in God’s truth, you can withstand the chaos, the burnout, the identity struggles—and still know exactly who you are and whose you are.

So if life feels like a lot right now? Let it be your cue to dig deeper. Not into performance. But into the peace that only comes from being rooted in Christ.

This blog wraps up our July series based on Chapter 1 of my upcoming book, A Pace of Grace. If your soul is craving rest, identity, and a rhythm that actually works, I’d love to walk this journey with you.

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From Anxious to Anchored: When Your Soul Cries Out for Stillness

I’ve battled anxiety for as long as I can remember.

Sometimes it shows up loud—like a racing heart, a clenched jaw, a full-blown panic attack when everything feels out of control.

Other times, it’s quiet—a simmering undercurrent of tension in my chest or the mental loop whispering, “You’re behind. You’re failing. You have to do more.”

But somewhere along the way, I realized something: Anxiety is often my soul’s way of waving a white flag.

It’s not always a sign that I’m broken. Sometimes, it’s a signal that I’ve been running too hard for too long.

It’s my inner spirit crying out: “I need stillness. I need peace. I need Jesus.”

The World Moves Fast—But You Don’t Have To

We live in a culture that celebrates hustle and busyness, that claps for overcommitment and calls rest “lazy.”

So when we feel anxious or burnt out, we assume we’re the problem. That if we could just try harder or plan better, we’d feel peace.

But friend, peace isn’t something we achieve by doing more. It’s something we receive by drawing near.

“Be still, and know that I am God.”

— Psalm 46:10

That verse isn’t only a cute coffee mug quote. It’s an invitation. To stop. To breathe. To anchor your soul in something stronger than the chaos.

What’s Actually Beneath the Anxiety?

When anxiety spikes in my life, it’s usually because I’m holding something too tightly:

– Control

– Expectations

– People’s opinions

– My plans for the future

It’s a form of striving. And striving disconnects me from God’s pace.

It convinces me that I need to hustle to hold it all together.But that’s not our job.

We are held by the One who holds the world.

Anchored in God’s Presence.

When anxiety rises, I’m learning to see it as a holy signal. A sacred nudge that says: “Pause here. Be with Me.”

Stillness is the antidote to soul-anxiety—not just a break in your schedule, but a posture of the heart.

Here’s how I anchor my anxious heart back to peace:

1. Breathe + Name It

When anxiety rises, I pause. Even for 30 seconds. I take a deep breath and name what I’m carrying.

“God, I feel overwhelmed because…”

“God, I’m scared of…”

“God, I don’t know what to do about…”

And then I exhale and say,

“But I trust You with it.”

2. Speak Truth Over the Spiral

“I am not alone.”

“I am fully known and fully loved.”

“God is my refuge and strength.”

“He goes before me.”

These aren’t just affirmations. They’re anchors.

The more I speak them, the more they steady me.

3. Pursue Stillness, Even in Small Moments

Sometimes I get 15 minutes to sit outside with my Bible and coffee.

Sometimes I get 1 minute in my car before the next pickup.

But I take what I can get—and I give that moment to God.

Even a few quiet breaths can anchor your heart back to Him.

4. Let Anxiety Drive You to Jesus

Instead of letting anxiety spiral me into self-reliance, I try to let it push me into surrender.

Lord, I can’t carry this.

But You can.

Help me trust You here.

Anchored Doesn’t Mean Unshaken

I still have anxious moments. Still get overwhelmed. Still forget to pause and spiral instead.

But what I’ve learned is this: Being anchored in Jesus doesn’t mean we’ll never feel anxious. It means we have a place to go when we do.

A place of stillness. A place of truth. A place where we can stop performing and just be—fully known, fully loved.

That place? It’s always open. We just have to pause long enough to enter it.

Final Thought

If you feel anxious right now, can I tell you something?

You’re not weak. You’re not a failure. You’re not too much.

You’re just tired. And that’s okay.

Let your anxiety lead you—not into more striving—but into the stillness of God’s presence.

You’re already held. Already loved. Already enough.

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Your Identity Isn’t What You Do—It’s Who You Belong To

There’s a strange pressure we carry—especially as women—to be everything.

We’re the mom, the wife, the organizer, the friend, the helper, the encourager, the one who remembers snacks and birthdays and the field trip form that somehow disappeared in the abyss of the school backpack.

And even if you’re not in a season of motherhood, there’s still that pressure: To succeed. To stay busy. To always be “on.”

But here’s the hard truth I had to learn (and still re-learn every day):

I am not what I do. And neither are you.

The Labels That Weigh Us Down

I used to measure my worth by my productivity. I felt more valuable when I was performing, when I had something to show for my day. But that’s a heavy way to live.

At some point, my identity became tangled in titles and expectations: “Pastor.” “Good mom.” “Reliable friend.” “Successful woman.” And when I wasn’t living up to those labels? I felt like I didn’t even know who I was anymore.

Have you ever felt that way?

The world is quick to hand us labels. But most of them are based on performance. And God? He never asked us to earn our identity. He simply gave it.

What God Says About Who You Are

Let’s clear this up: your identity isn’t rooted in what others say about you, or even what you say about you.

It’s rooted in what God has already declared. “You are my daughter. You are loved. You are chosen. You are not your past, not your pain, and not your perfection.”

He knew exactly what He was doing when He created you. Psalm 139 says you are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” Ephesians 2:10 says you were created on purpose for a purpose. That’s not just a motivational quote—that’s a truth to build your life on.

The Problem with Performance-Based Identity

When we base our identity on what we do, our confidence will always rise and fall with how we’re performing.

Bad day = bad identity.

Good day = temporary confidence boost.

It’s a rollercoaster. And it’s exhausting. But identity rooted in Christ is different. It doesn’t change when life does. It’s unshakable. It’s not threatened by failure. It’s not inflated by applause. It’s secure because it’s grounded in who we belong to.

So How Do We Stay Rooted in That Truth?

Here are a few ways I keep coming back to my true identity:

1. Speak Scripture Over Yourself

Daily affirmations aren’t just a trend. They’re spiritual warfare.

“I am a child of God.” (John 1:12)

“I am fully known and fully loved.” (Romans 8:38–39)

“I am a new creation.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

“I am God’s masterpiece.” (Ephesians 2:10)

Keep these on your mirror. Write them in your journal. Speak them out loud until your heart believes what your mind already knows.

2. Release the Masks

You don’t have to be a different version of yourself depending on the room you’re in.

You’re allowed to show up as your whole, honest, imperfect self.

God doesn’t bless who we pretend to be—He blesses who we actually are.

3. Lean Into Community

Find people who speak truth over you when you forget. We all need voices that remind us:

“You’re not alone. You’re not too much. You’re not failing. You’re God’s beloved.”

Surround yourself with people who help you take off the pressure and put on peace.

Final Thought

You are not what you do. You are not what others think. You are not how productive your day was. You are not defined by your past or your pain.

You are loved. You are chosen. You are seen. You are HIS. That’s the only identity that will hold when life starts shaking.

This blog is part of a July series based on Chapter 1 of my book, A Pace of Grace. I wrote it for the woman who’s tired of chasing peace and never quite finding it.

Let’s stop hustling for approval and start resting in the grace we’ve already been given.

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