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You Didn’t Fall Behind: Closing January with Grace

January has a way of sneaking in expectations we never intended to carry.

We begin with good intentions—fresh starts, new rhythms, hopeful plans—and somewhere along the way, the pressure creeps back in. The pressure to do more. To be more consistent. To prove we’re changing.

But as this month comes to a close, I want to offer you a gentle reminder:

You didn’t fall behind.

Because God was never measuring your progress the way the world does.

January wasn’t meant to be a test you passed or failed. It was an invitation—to slow down, to surrender, to let go of striving, and to learn what it looks like to walk at God’s pace. And invitations don’t expire just because a calendar page flips.


Grace Isn’t in the Completion — It’s in the Continuing

Maybe you started the month strong and felt grounded in stillness.
Maybe you tried, stumbled, and felt frustration rise up again.
Maybe you meant to slow down… but life didn’t cooperate.

Here’s the good news: grace meets you in all of it.

God isn’t waiting for you to arrive at some finished version of yourself before He delights in you. He walks with you in process. He’s present in the starting and the restarting. He’s just as near when you feel steady as when you feel scattered.

Obedience isn’t about perfect follow-through.
It’s about choosing to keep turning your heart back toward Him.

Again and again.
Without shame.
Without fear of getting it wrong.


What You Learned Matters — Even If It Feels Small

Growth often happens quietly.

It looks like noticing when your soul feels hurried.
Pausing before reacting.
Choosing rest even when it feels countercultural.
Letting something go instead of pushing through one more thing.

You may not have kept every intention or practiced every rhythm perfectly—but if your heart became even slightly more aware of God’s presence this month, that matters.

Small shifts create deep roots.

And God does some of His most transformative work below the surface, long before anything looks different on the outside.


You’re Allowed to Carry January with You

As much as the world tells us it’s time to move on—new month, new focus, new expectations—God’s invitations aren’t bound by dates.

You can keep choosing stillness.
You can keep practicing surrender.
You can keep walking gently.
You can keep letting obedience be light.

Nothing needs to be forced.
Nothing needs to be rushed.
Nothing needs to be earned.

Grace doesn’t rush you forward.
Grace walks beside you.


A Simple Reflection Before Moving On

Before stepping into what comes next, I invite you to pause and reflect:

• What is one thing God showed you about your pace this month?
• Where did you feel most at peace?
• What is one striving habit you want to keep releasing?

Write it down. Pray over it. Hold it gently.

Let January’s lessons become February’s foundation—not pressure, just presence.


Remember This Above All Else

God never asked you to have it all figured out by January 31st.
He asked you to walk with Him—and you did.

And every step you took, even the uncertain ones, mattered.

As we close this month, may you move forward knowing this:

You are not behind.
You are held.
And grace is still setting the pace.


A Personal Invitation

If this post felt like it put words to what your heart has been sensing this month, A Pace of Grace was written with you in mind.

This book isn’t a formula or a productivity plan—it’s a gentle invitation to slow down, stop striving, and learn how to walk with God in a way that brings peace instead of pressure. It was written from the middle of real life, imperfect rhythms, and honest questions about faith, rest, obedience, and surrender.

A Pace of Grace is for the woman who loves Jesus but feels weary.
For the one who wants to follow God faithfully without burning out.
For the one learning that obedience doesn’t have to be heavy and rest is a spiritual practice, not a reward.

As January closes and you look ahead, my prayer is that this book would walk beside you—reminding you that you are not behind, you are deeply loved, and grace is still setting the pace.

A Pace of Grace is available for pre-order with a release date of March 10.
Thank you for walking this journey with me.

Learning to Walk at God’s Pace (Not the World’s)

There’s a quiet truth I keep coming back to again and again:

Jesus never ran.

He wasn’t rushed.
He wasn’t frantic.
He wasn’t pulled in a thousand directions.

He walked.
He noticed.
He stopped for people along the way.

And somehow, He accomplished every single thing the Father gave Him to do.

In A Pace of Grace, I write:

“Jesus never ran anywhere… He had enough margin to stop and see people.”

That line came out of a season when I realized my life was moving too fast for my soul. I was doing good things—beautiful things—even God-things… but at a speed Jesus Himself never modeled.

And maybe you’ve felt that too—
like you’re living at a pace that doesn’t line up with the Person you’re following.


**The world pushes.

God guides.**

The world says:
Hurry up. Don’t slow down. Keep going. Do more. Be more.

But Jesus says:
“Come with Me… and you will find rest.”
(Matthew 11:28–29)

The world demands urgency.
Jesus invites presence.

The world celebrates busy.
Jesus celebrates being with Him.

One leads to exhaustion.
The other leads to peace.


A moment that woke me up to my own hurry

There was a day when I was rushing through my morning—packing lunches, answering messages, cleaning up breakfast before I even finished eating mine. I was moving fast, but I wasn’t really present.

One of my girls asked me a question, and I realized I hadn’t heard a word she said.

My mind was too full.
My heart was too hurried.
My body was there, but my attention wasn’t.

That night, as I reflected, the Holy Spirit whispered something so simple:

“Heather, hurry is making you miss Me.”

Not in a condemning way.
In a freeing way.
In a come back to Me way.

Because God often speaks in the stillness we keep rushing past.


**God’s pace is slower than we expect

and gentler than we’re used to.**

We often think slowing down will make us fall behind—but spiritually, the opposite happens.

Slowness helps us notice:
• God’s voice
• our own hearts
• the people right in front of us
• the moments that actually matter

Slowness helps us receive instead of perform.
Rest instead of react.
Become aware instead of overwhelmed.

Slowness is not laziness.
Slowness is spiritual attentiveness.


How to Walk at God’s Pace in Real Life

Here are some practical rhythms to help you slow to the speed of Jesus:

1. Start your morning unrushed

Even two quiet minutes with God will shift your whole day.

2. Leave margin between activities

The miracle moments in Scripture often happened in between.

3. Pay attention to what feels hurried inside

Ask, “Lord, what’s driving this? Fear? Pressure? Expectation?”

4. Practice “slow noticing”

Look at your kids’ faces.
Notice beauty.
Feel the warmth of your coffee.
Let yourself be present.

5. Choose presence over productivity

Every time you choose people over pace, you choose the heart of Jesus.


God’s pace is enough for you.

This is the truth your soul can settle into:

God will never lead you at a pace that destroys your peace.
God will not call you to a speed that keeps you from hearing Him.
God’s pace is always sustainable, spacious, and full of grace.

When we walk slower, we begin to see Him more clearly.
When we stop running, we start noticing His nearness.
When we let go of hurry, we make space for holiness.

This is the life we were made for—
a life aligned with the gentle, steady footsteps of Jesus.


A Note About the Book

If your heart longs for a slower, more peaceful, more Spirit-led pace, A Pace of Grace is truly written for you.
Chapter after chapter, it walks through the rhythms of identity, surrender, stillness, joy, and the beauty of walking with Jesus instead of running ahead of Him.

My prayer is that it becomes a companion to your own journey toward unhurried, wholehearted living.

When Your Soul Is Tired of Trying: A New Year Invitation to Surrender

There’s something about January that stirs up pressure, isn’t there?
A fresh start. A blank calendar. A brand-new list of expectations we quietly place on ourselves.

Everywhere we turn, the world tells us to hustle harder, set bigger goals, chase more, produce more, become more. And while there’s nothing wrong with goals or growth, I noticed something in myself these last few years: I didn’t need a new plan. I needed a new pace.

And not the pace the world tells me to run…
but the one God invites me to walk.

In A Pace of Grace, I write:

“Stillness doesn’t come from clearing my calendar but by filling my soul with Him, even in the chaos.”

That sentence came straight out of a season when my soul felt overextended—like I was trying to carry the weight of my life on my own shoulders. And friend… I don’t want to start another year like that. Maybe you don’t either.


Striving looks holy on the outside, but it drains us on the inside.

I used to think striving and obedience were the same thing—like if I didn’t give 110 percent, God would be disappointed. But striving is fueled by fear. Obedience is fueled by love.

Striving says:
“I have to prove myself.”

Obedience says:
“God, I trust You.”

Striving keeps us frantic.
Obedience keeps us free.
Striving puts the weight back on us.
Obedience puts the weight back on God.

As I prayed over this January, the Lord reminded me that a surrendered heart is far more powerful than a perfectly executed plan.


Maybe this year isn’t about doing more. Maybe it’s about releasing more.

Releasing control.
Releasing hurry.
Releasing the expectations we’ve been carrying for far too long.

Surrender is letting God lead instead of dragging Him behind us while we run.

And surrender becomes a doorway to peace.

When I finally stopped trying to “fix” my life through lists and schedules and leaned fully into Jesus, everything shifted. My circumstances didn’t magically change… but my heart did. My pace did. My awareness of His presence did.

Maybe the invitation for us this January isn’t to work harder but to breathe deeper.


A simple practice for this week:

5 Minutes of Stillness

I want to invite you into something small and sacred:

Take five minutes each day to sit with Jesus before you sit with the world.

Set a timer.
Sit in the quiet.
And pray, “Lord, I surrender this day to You. Lead me at Your pace.”

Don’t overthink it.
Don’t try to “do it right.”
Just show up. God loves showing up too.


This month’s heart posture: Surrender over striving

As we step into a new year, you don’t need to earn God’s love or prove your worth. You are already His daughter—chosen, loved, and held.

My prayer for you (and for myself) is this:

Lord, teach us to walk in step with You. Slow our striving. Steady our hearts. Let obedience be our joy and surrender be our strength.


A Note About the Book

If your heart is longing for a gentler pace this year—one filled with rest, presence, and freedom from striving—A Pace of Grace was written for you.

It will be available for pre-order, and I can’t wait to walk this journey of surrender and obedience with you each step of the way.

Choosing Presence Instead of Pressure

“Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”
— Luke 2:14

The angels didn’t announce Jesus’ arrival with urgency or pressure—but with peace. A peace meant for ordinary people in ordinary places.

Yet somehow, in the weeks leading up to Christmas, peace is often the first thing we sacrifice. This season, I’m learning that choosing presence is one of the most sacred ways we respond to God’s gift of peace.

Every December, I feel the pull to make everything magical—perfect gifts, perfect memories, perfect moments. But somewhere between the pressure and the Pinterest expectations, I lose the presence I actually long for.

I’m learning that my family doesn’t need a “more impressive” Christmas…
They need a more present me.

The gift of presence looks like:

• slowing down the schedule
• choosing peace instead of perfection
• saying yes to connection and no to pressure
• embracing the joy in simple, ordinary moments

When I read about the night Jesus was born, it wasn’t extravagant. It wasn’t polished or curated. It was quiet. Simple. Peaceful. And God was right there.

I want my home to feel like that this Christmas—
Not busy, but full of peace.
Not loud, but full of love.
Not rushed, but rooted in the presence of Jesus.

This week, I’m intentionally simplifying one tradition so we can create space for joy instead of stress. And I wonder… is there something you feel invited to loosen your grip on, too?

A simple practice for this week:

Name one tradition or expectation you can simplify so you can enjoy the moment instead of managing it.

Sisterhood of Grace Invitation

Showing up for one another is one of the ways we reflect the heart of Jesus. In the Sisterhood of Grace, we hold space for joy and hardship, faith and questions, celebration and grief—all of it.

If you’re longing for genuine community rooted in grace, I hope you’ll join us.

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