A pace of grace

You Didn’t Fall Behind: Closing January with Grace

January has a way of sneaking in expectations we never intended to carry.

We begin with good intentions—fresh starts, new rhythms, hopeful plans—and somewhere along the way, the pressure creeps back in. The pressure to do more. To be more consistent. To prove we’re changing.

But as this month comes to a close, I want to offer you a gentle reminder:

You didn’t fall behind.

Because God was never measuring your progress the way the world does.

January wasn’t meant to be a test you passed or failed. It was an invitation—to slow down, to surrender, to let go of striving, and to learn what it looks like to walk at God’s pace. And invitations don’t expire just because a calendar page flips.


Grace Isn’t in the Completion — It’s in the Continuing

Maybe you started the month strong and felt grounded in stillness.
Maybe you tried, stumbled, and felt frustration rise up again.
Maybe you meant to slow down… but life didn’t cooperate.

Here’s the good news: grace meets you in all of it.

God isn’t waiting for you to arrive at some finished version of yourself before He delights in you. He walks with you in process. He’s present in the starting and the restarting. He’s just as near when you feel steady as when you feel scattered.

Obedience isn’t about perfect follow-through.
It’s about choosing to keep turning your heart back toward Him.

Again and again.
Without shame.
Without fear of getting it wrong.


What You Learned Matters — Even If It Feels Small

Growth often happens quietly.

It looks like noticing when your soul feels hurried.
Pausing before reacting.
Choosing rest even when it feels countercultural.
Letting something go instead of pushing through one more thing.

You may not have kept every intention or practiced every rhythm perfectly—but if your heart became even slightly more aware of God’s presence this month, that matters.

Small shifts create deep roots.

And God does some of His most transformative work below the surface, long before anything looks different on the outside.


You’re Allowed to Carry January with You

As much as the world tells us it’s time to move on—new month, new focus, new expectations—God’s invitations aren’t bound by dates.

You can keep choosing stillness.
You can keep practicing surrender.
You can keep walking gently.
You can keep letting obedience be light.

Nothing needs to be forced.
Nothing needs to be rushed.
Nothing needs to be earned.

Grace doesn’t rush you forward.
Grace walks beside you.


A Simple Reflection Before Moving On

Before stepping into what comes next, I invite you to pause and reflect:

• What is one thing God showed you about your pace this month?
• Where did you feel most at peace?
• What is one striving habit you want to keep releasing?

Write it down. Pray over it. Hold it gently.

Let January’s lessons become February’s foundation—not pressure, just presence.


Remember This Above All Else

God never asked you to have it all figured out by January 31st.
He asked you to walk with Him—and you did.

And every step you took, even the uncertain ones, mattered.

As we close this month, may you move forward knowing this:

You are not behind.
You are held.
And grace is still setting the pace.


A Personal Invitation

If this post felt like it put words to what your heart has been sensing this month, A Pace of Grace was written with you in mind.

This book isn’t a formula or a productivity plan—it’s a gentle invitation to slow down, stop striving, and learn how to walk with God in a way that brings peace instead of pressure. It was written from the middle of real life, imperfect rhythms, and honest questions about faith, rest, obedience, and surrender.

A Pace of Grace is for the woman who loves Jesus but feels weary.
For the one who wants to follow God faithfully without burning out.
For the one learning that obedience doesn’t have to be heavy and rest is a spiritual practice, not a reward.

As January closes and you look ahead, my prayer is that this book would walk beside you—reminding you that you are not behind, you are deeply loved, and grace is still setting the pace.

A Pace of Grace is available for pre-order with a release date of March 10.
Thank you for walking this journey with me.

Learning to Walk at God’s Pace (Not the World’s)

There’s a quiet truth I keep coming back to again and again:

Jesus never ran.

He wasn’t rushed.
He wasn’t frantic.
He wasn’t pulled in a thousand directions.

He walked.
He noticed.
He stopped for people along the way.

And somehow, He accomplished every single thing the Father gave Him to do.

In A Pace of Grace, I write:

“Jesus never ran anywhere… He had enough margin to stop and see people.”

That line came out of a season when I realized my life was moving too fast for my soul. I was doing good things—beautiful things—even God-things… but at a speed Jesus Himself never modeled.

And maybe you’ve felt that too—
like you’re living at a pace that doesn’t line up with the Person you’re following.


**The world pushes.

God guides.**

The world says:
Hurry up. Don’t slow down. Keep going. Do more. Be more.

But Jesus says:
“Come with Me… and you will find rest.”
(Matthew 11:28–29)

The world demands urgency.
Jesus invites presence.

The world celebrates busy.
Jesus celebrates being with Him.

One leads to exhaustion.
The other leads to peace.


A moment that woke me up to my own hurry

There was a day when I was rushing through my morning—packing lunches, answering messages, cleaning up breakfast before I even finished eating mine. I was moving fast, but I wasn’t really present.

One of my girls asked me a question, and I realized I hadn’t heard a word she said.

My mind was too full.
My heart was too hurried.
My body was there, but my attention wasn’t.

That night, as I reflected, the Holy Spirit whispered something so simple:

“Heather, hurry is making you miss Me.”

Not in a condemning way.
In a freeing way.
In a come back to Me way.

Because God often speaks in the stillness we keep rushing past.


**God’s pace is slower than we expect

and gentler than we’re used to.**

We often think slowing down will make us fall behind—but spiritually, the opposite happens.

Slowness helps us notice:
• God’s voice
• our own hearts
• the people right in front of us
• the moments that actually matter

Slowness helps us receive instead of perform.
Rest instead of react.
Become aware instead of overwhelmed.

Slowness is not laziness.
Slowness is spiritual attentiveness.


How to Walk at God’s Pace in Real Life

Here are some practical rhythms to help you slow to the speed of Jesus:

1. Start your morning unrushed

Even two quiet minutes with God will shift your whole day.

2. Leave margin between activities

The miracle moments in Scripture often happened in between.

3. Pay attention to what feels hurried inside

Ask, “Lord, what’s driving this? Fear? Pressure? Expectation?”

4. Practice “slow noticing”

Look at your kids’ faces.
Notice beauty.
Feel the warmth of your coffee.
Let yourself be present.

5. Choose presence over productivity

Every time you choose people over pace, you choose the heart of Jesus.


God’s pace is enough for you.

This is the truth your soul can settle into:

God will never lead you at a pace that destroys your peace.
God will not call you to a speed that keeps you from hearing Him.
God’s pace is always sustainable, spacious, and full of grace.

When we walk slower, we begin to see Him more clearly.
When we stop running, we start noticing His nearness.
When we let go of hurry, we make space for holiness.

This is the life we were made for—
a life aligned with the gentle, steady footsteps of Jesus.


A Note About the Book

If your heart longs for a slower, more peaceful, more Spirit-led pace, A Pace of Grace is truly written for you.
Chapter after chapter, it walks through the rhythms of identity, surrender, stillness, joy, and the beauty of walking with Jesus instead of running ahead of Him.

My prayer is that it becomes a companion to your own journey toward unhurried, wholehearted living.

Striving Is Not a Spiritual Gift: How to Lay It Down

Let’s be real: I am a recovering overachiever. I’ve spent years chasing approval, productivity, and people-pleasing—believing that if I could just do more, be more, or fix all the things, I’d finally feel at peace. But here’s the truth God has been teaching me striving is not a spiritual gift.

It’s a trap.

And it’s exhausting.

If your soul feels tired, if your mind never shuts off, and if you constantly feel like you’re falling short—this post is for you. You’re not failing. You’re just carrying something you were never meant to.

The Invisible Weight We Carry

For so long, I thought rest was something I had to earn. I believed if I could just push through the to-do list or check all the boxes, I’d feel better. But the peace I was searching for never came at the end of striving.

Why?

Because our worth was never meant to be measured by what we do.

The belief that my value is tied to my productivity led me straight into burnout. And it’s a lie straight from the enemy. The enemy knows that if we’re too busy proving ourselves, we won’t pause long enough to remember who we are or Whose we are.

When God Interrupted My Hustle

There was a moment when I finally broke. I was sitting in a quiet room, but my soul was loud with anxiety. My eyes scanned the room for something to fix, something to clean, something to check off.

And that’s when I felt God speak to my spirit:

“Stillness isn’t about clearing your schedule. It’s about filling your soul with Me.”

Oof. It wasn’t that I needed to do less, it was that I needed to be with Him more.

Striving vs. Abiding

We often confuse the two. Striving says: “I have to earn it.” Abiding says: “It’s already been given.” Striving is about self-sufficiency. Abiding is about surrender.

Jesus never ran from task to task in a panic. He lived with margin. He paused. He prayed. He rested. If the Son of God made space for stillness, why do we treat it like a luxury instead of a necessity?

How to Lay Down the Striving

This isn’t a one-time fix. It’s a daily decision to walk at a pace of grace. And it starts with these small shifts:

1. Ask: Why am I doing this?

Before you say yes, commit, or rush into another task, ask: Is this from God? Or is this from a place of insecurity, people-pleasing, or fear?

2. Breathe and be still.

Even 30 seconds of silence can remind your soul who’s really in control. Say a breath prayer like:

“I am Yours, Lord. I don’t have to strive. I just have to abide.”

3. Surrender the outcome.

You don’t have to hold it all together. You never did.

Let God carry what’s too heavy. His strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Cor. 12:9).

4. Speak truth over lies.

Keep Scripture in front of you that reminds you of your identity:

“I am a child of God.” (John 1:12)

“I am loved.” (Romans 8:38–39)

“I am a new creation.” (2 Cor. 5:17)

Let truth rewrite the inner dialogue.

What Happens When We Let Go

Friend, I know it’s scary to slow down. But when we do, we finally hear what God’s been whispering all along: “You are already loved. Already chosen. Already enough.”

Striving won’t give you what your soul is searching for—but grace will.

Let’s Trade Hurry for Grace

This post is part of a new series based on my upcoming book, A Pace of Grace: Steady Your Spirit When Life Gets Messy. In it, I walk through how to find stillness in every season—without falling apart when life doesn’t slow down.

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