grief

The Picture on My Wall

There’s a picture that hangs in my home office.

It’s one that stands out because it doesn’t quite fit the space, but it’s something I cherish deeply.

My uncle drew it for me.

It’s a picture of a junked old car.

When I asked him to draw something to hang in my office years ago, he had the best idea. He told me he was going to create a series of four drawings for my new office. At the time, I had just been promoted to marketing manager in the auto industry, and I was so excited. He was proud of me in the way only an uncle can be.

I grew up in a family that loved anything with motors, so the idea felt personal and perfect.

But after the first drawing, everything changed.

My uncle suffered a massive heart attack. He told me he would start the second one soon, but then came the testing, surgeries, and eventually heart failure. The man with the biggest heart and the most contagious love for people was suddenly gone, now with Jesus.

And I have the picture he drew hanging on my wall.

Sometimes I’ll just sit and study it.

Every time I look, I notice something new.

Recently, what caught my attention was the car itself. It looked discarded. Rusted. Forgotten. The kind of thing people pass by without noticing. But then I saw where it was sitting — outside “dad’s garage.”

And it made me pause.

Because maybe it wasn’t abandoned after all.

Maybe it was waiting.

Waiting for the right moment.

Waiting for restoration.

Waiting for someone to see what it could become again.

And isn’t that so often our story, too?

There are seasons when we feel set aside. Seasons where parts of our story feel rusted, unfinished, or forgotten. We wonder if the dream, the calling, or even pieces of our identity were left behind somewhere along the way.

But our Heavenly Father knows exactly where we are.

Even when we feel unseen or worn down, God sees us. He holds our stories with care and perfect timing. Scripture reminds us that He is making all things new. Not rushed or forced, but restored in His timing and for His glory.

Just like that car sitting outside the garage, we are never outside His reach.

I may not have the rest of the drawing series my uncle imagined, but I treasure this one deeply. It reminds me that unfinished does not mean forgotten. It reminds me that beauty can still be found in what feels incomplete.

My uncle was a storyteller. He loved people, loved books, and introduced me to classics at a young age. His love for stories shaped me more than I realized at the time.

And now, as I prepare to release a book of my own, there’s a quiet ache in knowing I can’t hand him a copy. I can’t hear his thoughts or see that proud smile. But I carry his influence in every word I write.

And maybe that’s part of restoration too.

The stories poured into us don’t end.

They ripple forward.

They become part of the beauty God continues to write.

So today, as I sit beneath this cherished drawing, I’m reminded that God is still working. Still restoring. Still telling a story — in me, in you, and in every unfinished place we carry.

Nothing is wasted.

Nothing is unseen.

And in His hands, even what feels discarded becomes a testimony of redemption.


Reflection

What part of your story feels unfinished right now?

What if it isn’t abandoned… but waiting in the hands of a God who restores?


A Little Invitation

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Healing Isn’t Linear: Redeeming a Day I Once Dreaded

Healing isn’t linear.

It doesn’t move in neat, forward-facing lines. It loops and circles back. It surprises you in ordinary moments. And sometimes, grief hits differently depending on the season you’re in.

On February 13, 2001, my grandma passed away.

I was in sixth grade, getting ready for our Valentine’s Day party at school. At the time, I loved Valentine’s Day. I loved the pink cards, the candy hearts, the joy of it all. But that day changed everything for me… in more ways than one.

For years afterward, Valentine’s Day wasn’t sweet. It was left as a reminder of my broken heart. A day that carried sorrow instead of the excitement it once had. Grief has a way of attaching itself to dates on a calendar, right? Even when life keeps moving, those dates can stop you in your tracks.

Over time, I found myself caring less about the holiday. It just didn’t feel important anymore.

But healing has a way of showing up in unexpected places.

When I started dating my husband, he made it a point to get me flowers every Valentine’s Day. I love flowers. Always have. But it wasn’t just about the bouquet. It was about the consistency. The way he honored something that had become complicated for me.

His steady love began healing something in me that I didn’t even realize still needed healing.

Later, when we found out we were pregnant with our first child (a girl), I shared a memory from my childhood that meant so much to me. Every Valentine’s Day, my dad would get my mom flowers… and he would get me flowers too. It was a sweet reminder that I had a dad that loved me and thought of me, even when he didn’t have to… since he married my mom when I was 6 years old.

My husband loved that tradition immediately. He has carried it on for our girls ever since. He is such a gift as a girl dad. Watching him hand them flowers each year feels like watching legacy unfold in real time.

And then came another layer of redemption.

I began something that started small as a galentines tea. It has now become Galentine’s Day Brunch and my girls look forward to it each year. This has offered a sweet redemption to January 13th, a date that used to make me curl up in a blanket and wait for the day to pass.

Every year, I set the table with intention. I set & decorate the table. I prepare the food. I set out a special game or craft. And as I do, I feel something holy happening in the chaos of my kitchen.

What was once a day I dreaded has become a day I prepare for with joy.

Fifteen years later, here I am — setting a table on a date that once marked heartbreak.

Healing isn’t linear.

Sometimes it looks like tears.
Sometimes it looks like flowers.
Sometimes it looks like a beautifully set table filled with little girls laughing.

God is so kind in the way He redeems our stories. He doesn’t erase the loss. He doesn’t pretend the grief didn’t happen. But He weaves beauty into it. He plants new memories where old pain used to live.

If you’re carrying a date that feels heavy, I want you to know this:

Redemption is possible.

It may take time. It may take new traditions. It may take brave love and gentle consistency.

But what once held sorrow can, by God’s grace, hold sweetness again.


A Gentle Prayer

Father,
You see the dates on our calendar that still ache.
You know the memories that feel tender and unresolved.

Would You meet us there?
Would You begin weaving beauty where grief once settled?
Give us courage to create new rhythms, to open our hearts again,
and to trust that You are still redeeming every part of our story.

Amen.


Soft Call to Action

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The Gift of Showing Up

“The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.”
— John 1:14

God didn’t stay distant. He showed up. He came near. He entered our world fully, tenderly, and personally.

At Christmas, we remember that Emmanuel—God with us—is not just a theological truth, but an invitation to love the same way: by being present, by showing up, and by walking with one another in grace.

December can be beautiful, but it can also be lonely. Even surrounded by people, so many are carrying quiet hurts, invisible burdens, and unspoken needs. And sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is simply showing up.

Not with perfect words.
Not with the “right” answers.
But with presence. With listening. With love.

Jesus came near to us—God with us. Emmanuel. And in a small way, we reflect His heart every time we choose to be with someone.

Showing up might look like:

• A text: “You came to mind today. I’m praying for you.”
• A coffee drop-off on a friend’s doorstep
• A few minutes of undistracted listening
• Holding space for someone’s story
• A simple prayer whispered for someone hurting

We don’t have to fix everything. We just get to be a reminder that they aren’t walking alone.

As the year closes, I’m thanking God for the friends who have shown up for me in big and small ways. And I feel the Spirit nudging me to do the same for others… quietly, faithfully, intentionally.

A simple practice for this week:
Ask the Lord to bring one person to mind—and reach out to them today.

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